Hey ladies! So today’s topic is marriage. First of all lets unpack what marriage is. When we read about marriage in the bible we see that its a covenant between those who are married and God. If you don’t know, a covenant is an agreement so when you decide to get married you are saying okay God, this is your marriage and we vow to stay together and love each other as Christ loves us; the church, his bride.
Now in Ephesians 5:22-33 Paul talks about how husband and wife are supposed to treat each other. He tells wives to submit to their husbands because the husband is her head just as Christ is the head of the church. Now I know when most women hear the word submit they sometimes get a little uneasy because they think “well I’m not bowing down to anybody” *rolls eyes snaps fingers twice*. Well ladies that type of attitude has to go especially when it comes to serving God. We bow down to God daily because He is the master of our lives and our faith. So what does it mean to submit? It means be the best helpmate you can be to your husband. It means loving your husband as Christ loves you and embracing the love He gives you. It means supporting your husband in every decision he makes for your family and if he makes some not so good decisions he doesn’t need your “I told you so” but rather he needs your help to make a better one. It means helping him in any way you can and never leaving his side.
There are many things you’re husband is supposed to do. He should be leading you and making sure that you and you children are provided for and that you are sound in your prayer life and your bible reading. He is a servant leader meaning his role is not the the boss or master of your household but rather he is Christ to you making sacrifices for you, building you up, being there for you, being a good example for you and your children to follow, all while continuing to grow in the faith with you. I know its hard sometimes ladies, trust me but God doesn’t promise us it will be be easy. Christ is the epicenter of your marriage and if your relationship with God is destorted then your marriage will be distorted also.
Make no mistake even though you should love your husband and respect and honor him, in no way should your husband be put on a pedestal and idolized. Your marriage is about Christ not you not your husband but rather the both of you together reflecting the love of God. Your marriage is temporal and is meant to minister to those that surround you here on earth but 1 Corinthians 7:29-31says that we should remember that this world is passing away and we shouldn’t make our spouses and marriage to be something that will last beyond this earth because eventually we will be in heaven where we only have one relationship and that is our relationship to our saviour Jesus Christ. So yes uphold a healthy Christ centered loving marriage but do not idolize it. And single ladies do not idolize marriage or covet it! God calls some to marriage and some to singleness so if God wills it yes you can be married but don’t chase a relationship with a man please just seek a relationship with God and make Jesus the number one love of your life and a Godly husband will be added unto you to compliment you and walk with you in the faith.
Marriage is not a fairytale its a gift from God that should be lead by the spirit with Christ in the center. Keep God first and remember that His love is not something you have to earn so don’t make your spouse feel like they have to earn your love just stay engulfed in the Father’s love and embrace it and allow that same love to over flow from both of you into your marriage. Also remember we aren’t perfect and we will make mistakes so don’t make your spouse a hero because he can’t save you or always do what you want him to. But make Christ the hero because no matter what, He will never fail you. He will save your marriage from falling apart and keep you both in the bad times and the good times.
Ladies, how was it when you first got married? Was it it harder than you expected? For my single ladies, do you find yourself worrying too uch about getting married or are you comletely dismissing marriage all together and if so why?
Men out there what are some of the challenges you faced in your marriage and what do you think can be done to make your marriage better?
Comment and let me know your thoughts ladies (and fellas).
Grace and Peace to you all.